How to Utilize Self-talk and Develop Your Self Confidence in 7 Minutes

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Listen to your positive and supportive inner voice

Self confidence is your belief in yourself. It refers to your confidence in your actions, beliefs and competencies. Having self-confidence is the key towards a successful and fulfilling life.

Self-talk can be described as that little voice inside your head which can either be helpful or damaging to your self-confidence. This inner voice usually critiques, give comments, or praise your deeds and actions.

There are different views about self-talk in relation to building self confidence.

Some people may associate self-talk to the obstacles towards attaining true confidence in oneself. This can be true in the cases of people who have no drive to take the pessimism out of their heads. This can later become a vicious cycle where a person is perpetually trapped in a downward spiral of declining self-esteem.

There is also a school of thought which believes that self-talk is an important tool in developing self confidence. The inner voice can be seen as a teacher, a mentor, a critique who gives constructive comments and a friend. Self-talk has been employed by successful people in their careers in fields such as sports and show business.

Here are some few helpful tips on how to utilize self-talk towards developing a healthy self confidence:

Listen to your inner voice 

This is the first step in making good use of self-talk. Identify the inner voice in you and listen to what it is saying. Ask questions like, regarding the contents of the thoughts, the situations which brought about these thoughts and the other factors which could have aggravated the situation. Remember that this is to be done under the general goal of building self-confidence, so try to be as honest as possible.

Thoughts Assessment 

After the thoughts have been identified, it is time to assess them. What are these thoughts saying in general? What attitude towards the self is being projected by these thoughts? How have I responded to these kinds of thoughts in the past? What have these kinds of thoughts instilled in me throughout the years? Have they been helpful to me and my quest towards self confidence?

Another important thing to assess is the way you respond to the thoughts that are being said by your inner voice. You might think that negative thoughts are empowering and that they give the much needed push to attain your goals. Negative thoughts and comments can be helpful in the short run; however, they do more damage than good. Negative thoughts instill a general feeling of hopelessness and incompetence, especially if you fail more than once in a certain endeavor. Viewing life in a positive light is the way towards building self-confidence. When a person stumbles down, the inner voice should say “stand up, you can do it!” rather than “you’re pathetic, stay down before you hurt yourself again!”

The general tone of the inner voice is as important as what it is saying. Negative tones should be controlled and be reversed into positive ones.

Make a difference 

Dealing with your inner voice can be a daunting task. If it’s hard to talk to somebody who wouldn’t listen, it’s even harder to talk and listen to yourself since there can be no sensible argument that could happen.

Getting rid of the negative thoughts inside your head will give the positive thoughts some space. It is all about rephrasing the negative thoughts to make them positive. Your concept of the world is based on your views of the world. You develop self-confidence by feeling good about yourself. The inner voice should not have control of the body it is you who should have control over the inner voice.

Self-confidence is like a pair of eyeglasses, having the right pair can make you enjoy the beauty of things to the fullest. Life, if you truly look at it, is all about perception. You will never enjoy life if you perceive it with much negativity. This is also true in terms of viewing yourself. Self confidence is tied to having true happiness. True happiness can only come from within your heart and believing in yourself is the only way to achieve happiness.

This is part eleven of 15 (yes, fifteen!) posts about The Ultimate Guide to Improving Your Self-Confidence, subscribe to our newsletter by clicking this link to receive free updates (not to mention a FREE E-Book!).

Part I: The Shocking Truth About Self-Confidence
Part II: 5 Little-Known Factors That Could Affect Your Confidence
Part III: 5 Surprising Characteristics of Someone Who Fears Rejection
Part IV: How to Cope With the Fear of Losing Your Loved One
Part V: How to Overcome the Fear of Failure
Part VI: Warning: Do Not Let Your Shyness Overpower You
Part VII: The Minimalist Guide to Good Posture
Part VIII: Secrets of Supermodels: How to Walk with Confidence
Part IX: 8 Steps to a Proper Handshake
Part X: How to Improve Self-Confidence through Eye Contact

To our success in all areas of life, 
Argel Tiburcio 
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